Race Relations

I recently read an interesting article about race and relationships in daily life. It mentioned that Asian men often rank lower in attractiveness among Caucasian women, and even some Asian women don’t rate Asian men very highly. As a female escort with a mix of Asian, European, and South American roots, I’ve had clients from all kinds of backgrounds. Naturally, I’ve wondered why they choose me. Maybe it’s because I have a bit of everything—like a cultural fusion dish!

Most of the feedback I hear is cultural. A lot of men, especially those from Western backgrounds, say they’re drawn to women who feel different from what they grew up around. Some seem tired of the traditional expectations in their own cultures, which often favor women who conform to strict, old-fashioned roles. I’m not against tradition—there’s beauty in it—but when it alienates or limits people, I think it’s time to let some of it go.

That brings up a question—if a man isn’t attracted to someone because of cultural differences, is that really racism? Maybe. You can’t dictate attraction. No one can be forced to find someone sexually appealing or fall in love.

Still, I’ve seen my fair share of ignorance, especially on dating apps (like Tinder ). There are profiles that say things like: “I’m not racist, but no Asian women or no Latinas.” Preferences are one thing, but I personally find men of all races attractive. Maybe it’s because I’ve been fortunate to travel and learn about different cultures. I think people who’ve had similar experiences often have a more open view of relationships across race.

I remember trying speed dating once. (A total waste of time, but that’s another story!). The room was filled with men from various walks of life. By the end of the night, I wasn’t too concerned about whether anyone marked me down for a second date. But I couldn’t help noticing that some of the men, especially those from India or East Asia, had trouble connecting with women. It wasn’t for lack of trying—they just didn’t seem to know the unspoken rules of Western flirting. If you want to connect with someone from a different culture, it helps to adapt a little. Some of the men didn’t seem to realize how much things like grooming, clothing, or conversation styles matter.

I don’t think that disconnect is about race—it’s more about unfamiliarity. But I get why some people might feel rejected and blame racism.

In my experience, my mixed heritage has actually worked to my advantage. I’ve noticed that men from Southern Europe, the Middle East, and Latin America are often drawn to me. Jewish men, too. Occasionally, I’ll meet someone from Northern Europe or an Aussie. Many of my clients and dates are well-traveled or have university degrees. It seems that men who have seen the world tend to appreciate diverse backgrounds more.

I believe this kind of openness will keep growing. With travel becoming more accessible and the internet bringing people closer, the world is only getting smaller. More and more, I think we’ll see relationships crossing racial and cultural lines. The future of romance might just be as diverse as the people living in it.