Tantra Soul-Gazing: Creating Instant Intimate Connections
Most people believe that intimacy is something that takes time to develop, but what if I told you there is a technique that will allow you to connect heart-to-heart and soul-to-soul with another, in a matter of seconds? It’s called Soul-Gazing and if you haven’t heard of this before, let me explain.
The are many Soul-Gazing rituals in tantra that allow a person to interact with another on a very deep level. It is a non-verbal form of communication which allows two people to become so deeply in tune with each other, the separation between self and the other dissolves for a moment in time.
Many people shy away from looking for a long period of time into another person’s eyes, because we may be afraid that the someone might see something in us that they don’t like. After all, our eyes reveal a lot about our hidden emotions, desires, fears etc. So if you are soul-gazing and suddenly you feel some emotions rising inside of you, just become a neutral observer of them and they will eventually pass. Getting past our fears of being exposed and vulnerable is a the first step to opening ourselves to a higher way of connecting with other human beings. I suggest you practice with someone that you have some level of trust for, until you get used to the process.
In many Celtic Traditions, it is believed that the eyes are the “gateways to the soul”, allowing us to connect with our Anam Kara or friend of the soul.
The first thing you need to do is find a partner willing to practice with you. This can literally be anyone you see fit to open yourself up to. Remember that you can just as readily disconnect after Soul-Gazing, so that you run your own energy and not someone else’s.
How To Soul-Gaze:
- Find a quiet place where you and your partner will be undisturbed. Then, stand across from your partner and place your right hand on top of his/her left hand, while your left hand should be placed underneath his/her right hand. Imagine that you are a mirror image of each other.
- Begin to pace each others’ breath and as you do this, slowly allow your connected hands to gently rise on the inhale and descend on the exhale. Continue breathing in this manner throughout the exercise.
- With your left eye, gently look into your partner’s left eye (from his/her perspective). Gaze at your partner softly and take your time, because this isn’t a staring contest. Make sure that you blink naturally.
- Use your right eye to see peripherally. This will open up your second sight (3 or 4 points of attention) and give you a greater depth of perception. You may begin to feel a sensation building within you as you connect with your partner. Simply honor it and focus your mind on filling him/her with white light or unconditional love.
- Now, test out the connection you have established. To do this, gently lean back at the same time as your partner and notice how the connection is broken. Then notice how the chords between you are reattached once you lean back in.
- To end your soul-gazing session, disconnect your hands and close your eyes. Then, place your right hand on your heart and left hand on top. As you inhale focus on your navel and as you exhale, focus on the top of your head (crown chakra), for a total of 4 breaths. As you exhale on your fourth breath, slowly open your eyes.
- Make sure you thank your partner for sharing in the experience with you.
As you soul-gaze you may notice a number of things going on. Many people first notice their partner’s face begin to morph. Sometimes a younger or older face begins to surface, which depending your beliefs might be indicative of past lives. Other times, people see colors of the aura or the face of an animal, which many indigenous cultures believe to be our animal guides.
But, regardless of your spiritual beliefs, Soul-Gazing will help you connect first with yourself, and with a partner. After all, what is intimacy about, if not about its root meaning in relating to one in another?
